HAVE YOU EVER BEEN FRIEND ZONED OR DOES YOUR FRIEND HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU?

 

It’s February once again and Valentine fever strikes as usual during this month. As we know, Pinoys are so into all things related to Valentines Day especially during pre-pandemic times where you’d see Valentine’s stuff all over the place! We are so in love with Love, so I thought of writing about it.  But this time it’s about… why shouldn’t you fall for a friend.

Yes…. not with your friend.

ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH YOUR FRIEND?

From my experience I had mixed groups of friends during my high school and college days up until my working days in Manila.

In those times being close and becoming attached to guy friends was inevitable. Okay, I’m sure you also at some point had the same experience. And if you ask me if I had fallen in love with a friend?

Yes.

And that’s why I can say it’s not impossible but there’s no guarantee that the love you have for that person will be reciprocated.

There was this male friend, we used to hang out a lot, watched movies together, ate out or just strolled around the mall. Over time, my feelings for him grew fonder as we were always together and he would almost always check on me too.

But I didn’t think of his actions like he was falling in love with me. No way. We are friends and that’s what matters.

Eventually we talked it out and just laughed about it.

So from that time on I realized falling for a friend may work out for others but not for me.

 

DON’T CROSS THE LINE

Here’s why you shouldn’t cross boundaries with a friend.

• He has a girlfriend/boyfriend— Well, when you are good friends and he is committed to someone else, tell yourself not to fall in love with your buddy no matter how close you are.

 

• One Sided— as I said, if you were the first to fall for him and eventually he learns about it, just pray he’s not gonna laugh about it. Other men would just say they found a sister or buddy in you so what’s that falling in love thing you feel for them?

 

• Friend Zoned— There are men/women who will tell you up front or even jokingly, “Uy, friends lang tayo ha?” This may not be pleasing to the ear if you have feelings for that person.  It may sound untoward but in the end you’ll thank him/ her for their honesty.

 

• Having a relationship might ruin the friendship—  In my younger years, I thought about it too, (that) having a relationship with your friend might ruin the friendship when you lose the magic if you guys break up and fall apart. This could happen. But it all depends though, there are couples who go back to the base of their friendship after the break up.

 

• He’s just not into you— Girl, if you start to fall for a friend and he’s not sending signs of being mutually attracted to you, then accept he’s not into you. Maybe you are not just his type so tell your heart to stop falling for him.

 

Whenever the friend you’re falling for is not giving you any signals, girl stop! Reflect. Tell your heart you deserve someone who will love you like a queen and not friend zone you just like that!

 

 

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