Breaking It Gently :How To Know When It’s Over and Done

I Saw The Sign

Have you heard of James Ingram’s song No Easy Way To Break Somebody’s Heart? For the millenials out there, you may search it on You Tube, — well, this somehow summarizes what one feels when he/she already wants to leave a relationship but just can’t find the right words to say.

Is there really a way to say goodbye without having to cause pain?  When a relationship starts to have problems, the initial reaction would always be “in denial”, that things can still be handled, that everything’s going on smoothly. Then, you continue as if nothing is wrong.

What if he is sending you signs that he wants  out and you just ignore it?

Things can be more hurting if you continue to pretend that everything’s okay when in fact it’s not.  Hmmn, how do you know when it’s not working anymore, when it’s almost over but you just don’t want to leave?

Here are some signs he /she might be giving out but you just keep ignoring….

• Sudden coldness— this can be very apparent when as a couple you frequently spend time together then suddenly you sense that your partner seems to have a change of heart and his attitude becomes lukewarm and there’s a feeling of coldness in the way he treats you.
• Time check—is your girl/ guy checking his watch every now and then when you guys are spending “we” time? Does he seem to hurry a bit now to be with friends or go somewhere? If this happens more often than usual, then check if he might want to spend time alone or with anyone aside from you. Confront him/her like, “hey why are you always in a hurry?”
• Sweetness no more—Notice the consistency of one’s actions. He/she doesn’t text you anymore or you don’t complement each other anymore like before.
• Don’t tell me there’s someone —This is often times the reason but neither one of you is brave enough to say it. It is just discovered. Like, ‘Oh, I see so you are in love with someone new?”
• Feelings die —If in the course of the relationship, he/she will drop the bomb, “I don’t love you anymore…” what would you do? Of course, there’d be a little drama, questions and blaming but hey, realize that through it all, it’s better that it ended that way.
• No longer the same—he’s not the same person I used to be with, I used to talk to. She fights with me and not humble to admit she’s done wrong. This is what happens when pride overpowers respect and love for your partner.

Now, is there really a way to lessen the hurt when ending something you thought would last? Don’t fret, my dear!

Cheer up! Remember that it’s better to have ended something than pretend everything’s okay. You will just prolonging the agony because eventually you will still end it by parting ways. So, be brave to end a relationship once you’ve seen and felt all these signs.

Life will always reward you with a sweet hello! CCT