How To Know You’ve Moved On (From a Heart Break)

Let’s first take a break from food posts as it gets me hungry each time I see pictures of delectable dishes.

Well, I recently watched a movie.  I admit I seldom watch movies on the big screen but when I do, I make sure it’s worth it.

Exes Baggage is a movie that anyone who has fallen in love can easily relate to.  Millenials can also easily grasp the story because the plot is so in the now. The movie tells us not to fall in love again unless you are ready to give it your all. That you can only know and learn what love is if you are ready to sacrifice, endure the hardships and go through the pains of loving someone all over again.

There are cases wherein someone has been hurt or traumatized by a past relationship. Baggages from the past can steal the joy of the present.  You have to deal with your past issues and settle them first before moving on so it will not affect your present and future decisions.

LOVING and LOSING

LOVE is one of the best gifts one can receive especially if it is freely given to you. They say love can inspire and make that person beautiful, generous and productive but it can also break hearts if you don’t know how to give it back or worst, if the love you expect in return is not reciprocated. One can become angry, bitter and sad….and only God can heal the broken pieces shattered by a lost love.

However, there are some who deal with break ups lightly. They face and accept reality, deal with circumstances whatever they may be.

HOW TO COPE OVER A BREAK UP:

Each individual copes in different ways. Here are a few tips on how NOT to burden yourself over a painful break-up.

• Do not deny–acknowledge the pain, situation and the person who caused you so much hurt.
• Closure— end everything properly.
• Cut all connections (social media, chat, sms/calls) This will help ease the hurt. Not seeing his/her posts and not talking after a break up can help you think, recharge and get back on your feet again.
• Be civil—this may work for you but not for others, depending on how you parted ways. If in case you bump into an ex, just smile.
• PRAY— it will help you more than you know.

Once you’ve recovered and moved on, you’ll just know.

Here’s how…

• Name game—you know you’ve recovered and gotten over a lost love when you hear his/ name and it doesn’t anymore pinch even the tip of your heart.
• Bitter Not—this happens only when you accepted that the person you’ve always wanted and dreamed of is not meant for you. People would always say, “someone better is meant for you.” Well, you can be better and do better with or without that someone. Perhaps what is meant for you could not be someone.  Blessings could come in different forms, so be mindful.
• Love takes time— now you’ve moved on. Just make sure that when you get into a new relationship, it’s not because you just need to. Leave all the baggages from your past so you’ll have a peaceful journey to the present. CCT