Things I Learned from Past Relationships

“Gusto ko lang maging masaya” ….

This is what I often hear whenever people are asked kung ano ang gusto nila sa isang relasyon.

What we sometimes forget is that kailangan munang maging masaya at maayos ang ating mga sarili at kaisipan before we can give and love others.

So, let me ask you. Are you happy with how you interact or relate with your family? How about with your friends or even your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Relationships give meaning to a person’s existence as one gets to draw strength, courage and inspiration from the other. Relationships enable us to grow, it helps us define and love ourselves as we go on knowing and being able to spend time with that person.

Reality is– there’s no such thing as perfect, much more in relationships. The ones who are in it need to work it out every single day and give it their best to keep everything in place.

I had my share of relationship stories and I also  learned from other people’s stories—well, enough to give you guys tips and share what I’ve learned half my lifetime in dealing with people, in loving them and losing some along the way.

Here are some points I learned and I hope you too, will benefit from it.

• Love is Freely Given— in any relationship, be it with a friend or family member and much more to a girlfriend/boyfriend one cannot force liking and loving. Love should come naturally rather than being forced, reprimanded or commanded by anyone.

Ang pagmamahal na tapat, walang katapat na halaga.

• Don’t be fooled by words— observe how people treat you, how they talk to you. Do their words match their actions?
• NO What If’s and Could’ve Been’s— “What ifs” and “could’ve been’s” are sooo movie like lines but it really happens. Always make sure that when you are with someone, you are able to let the person know how much he/ she means to you, do not be afraid to express your emotions. Sometime, we suppress it, we delay showing our appreciation, saying sorry and I love you only to realize—it may be too late.

• Hope…But Know When to Stop— In all relationships we always hope that everything will work out well, we hope that the love we have found is the one that will stay and last.

However, no matter how much you’ve given your all, it isn’t enough. So, ‘pag ganito na ang mga ganap–put a stop.

• Love Takes Time —  Ang pag-ibig , hindi minamadali. People would often ask me, “Why aren’t you married?”  Guys, walang time frame ang pag-aasawa. Don’t gamble your feelings for the wrong reasons. If you feel the need to have a partner just because you miss having someone…uh oh, that’s not a reason to be in love or in a relationship again.

There is always life after a heart gets broken, as there is sunshine after every storm. As you heal, God will reward you. Oh well, hindi man yung taong pangarap mo but with the life He thinks is best for you. You just have to believe.

/CCT.